Do people treat you badly all the time? Do you find you are always fighting with people, or they with you? Do they lie, cheat, steal and take advantage of you? You might be a trouble seeker.
Paul warned the church in Ephesus against living this way and gave some valuable insights on how to be different. Drama seekers attract trouble. They don’t come right out and say they want negativity in their lives, yet it is there and it is constant.
It’s possible that down deep, you like being lied to. You don’t want to trust people, or be vulnerable. So, when they lie, it justifies your distance. Or, maybe you enjoy people being made at you. Then, you don’t have to open up to love. You look for it, open the box and hold on to anger because it feels good.
There are people who enjoy drama. I am not one of those people. Are you tired of being a trouble seeker? Here are some pointers we can get from Paul’s words:
Stop lying. Eph 4:25 says “Therefore, putting away lying, let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.” Picture a lie as a toy that’s been grabbed out of the box. If you know someone that keeps bring that toy to play, grab it out of their hands and put it away. If you’re the culprit, stop it. Put it away. Don’t tolerate lying, nor liars. If you enjoy lying, or tolerate liars, you might be a trouble seeker.
Stop inappropriate anger. v26-27. “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.
Some people think Christians should get angry. It’s ok to be angry as long as your anger is directed at the right things or people. Anger without sin means unselfish anger. It’s the kind of anger that turned the money changers’ tables over and that called the Pharisees a “brood of vipers” (Mt.23:33).
Appropriate anger is directed toward the right people at the right time and then it’s put away.
Is anger another toy you like to hold onto? Paul tells us to not let the day end in anger.
Letting anger build and grow gives power to the devil. If you’re always angry, or people are always angry at you, you might be a trouble seeker.
Are you ready to be different? Eph.5:1-2 tells us how to stop being a trouble seeker, “… be imitators of God as dear children and walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.”
God’s not a trouble seeker. We shouldn’t be either.
Imitate God. To imitate someone well, you have to spend a lot of time with them. The only way to imitate God well is to spend time with Him in prayer and His Word.
Walk in love. As you move through this day, decide to be different. Take action to bring peace in your life. Don’t allow trouble in, nor cause it.
Make a decision today that you are not going to be a trouble seeker any more.
Thank you faithful readers, followers and “likers.” I appreciate you all. May God bless you all as you sing your songs for Him.
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